You finally managed to clean up the kitchen, tuck the kiddos into bed, and plop onto the couch after another draining day. You grab your book and settle in, thankful for a just a few minutes of chill time. Then you hear it. Crinkling and crackling coming from the kitchen. Again. “Is he really eating Oreo’s right now?” you ask yourself. “Does he not care about his health, or my goals for that matter?!”
It can be tough to thrive in a world where someone you love is not ready to make healthy lifestyle changes. This can place unwanted tension on both your relationship and your goals, but there are ways to navigate these troublesome waters!
Before you decide to throw in the towel on your relationship OR your fitness goals, here are five ways for coping with a loved one’s unhealthy choices.
uncomfortable at first. Many folks fear the situation that they are in but feel that they have no power to change it. Stay positive and be encouraging toward your spouse, noting how your lifestyle changes have led to a more fulfilling life and that you believe she can do the same!
tacos. Well…compromise people! Bake some “fried chicken” in the oven and then adding it to some simple skinny tacos. She gets chicken, you get tacos. Boom. The same thing can be said for exercising together. Don’t continually ask your husband to go on a run with you if he absolutely hates running. Maybe you could take a boxing class together where you can get your sweat on and he can release some aggression! Splitting the difference with exercise and nutrition choices can lead to a healthier body and relationship for both of you!
as you are taking healthy measures to improve your well-being, his choices shouldn’t stand in the way of your goals. And if she’s trying to discourage you from reaching your goals, then maybe you need to have a little chat about some deeper issues that she has going on. Set a healthy goal don’t let others dictate whether or not you are going to crush it!
overnight thing for you, and it won’t be for your spouse either. Take note of all the steps that your spouse is taking in the right direction and let him know that you’re thankful. Maybe she just signed up for her first 5k. Maybe he just politely declined wing night with the guys. No matter how small the step, each one is leading to a healthier lifestyle and should be acknowledged!
It is completely understandable to want to live and long and happy life together with your spouse. Or maybe it’s your child, mother, or BFF. Whatever the relationship may be-- a healthy lifestyle is possible for both of you!